"Once, at a wedding reception, a woman friend saw the two standing together. 'How terribly distinguished you look,' she said.
"'We are distinguished,' Henry James replied. 'But you need not look so terribly so,' said the friend. 'We are shameless, shameless!' said Henry James."
[Faulkner once dubbed James "the nicest old lady I ever met." T. S. Eliot's verdict? "He had a mind so fine that no idea could violate it."]